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Special child, special parents

21 Saturday Jan 2012

Posted by Ann Kilter in Autism, diagnosis

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college graduate, special needs

I was often told that I must be a special person to have been entrusted by God with special children. I thought, but did not say out loud, that I did not want to be a special parent. I felt that really, God, perhaps, had picked the wrong person for this job. I told him that, too, to his face, so to speak. God is big enough to be questioned. He could take it.

I knew these people, though misguided, were trying to say something to comfort me. I knew that they didn’t know what to say.

Sometimes people also treated my husband and I as if we were a little special, too. This, despite the fact that we both have bachelors degrees. I had a major in English and nearly a double major in linguistics. I still had to keep tellingl my kids’ speech therapists that I had comprehensive knowledge about phonemes, phonology, morphology, and syntax. Sometimes people in our church and our relatives treated us as though we were a little special, too.

But the truth is, by God’s grace and help, we became the parents our children needed. God didn’t change the diagnosis of autism. He changed us.

Finding a job in the post education world

02 Wednesday Nov 2011

Posted by Ann Kilter in Transition issues

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autism, college graduate, employment, superstar, transition, worry

My son, the superstar senior, is having difficulty finding work in the post-education world.  He succeeded beyond our wildest dreams in high school. He graduated first in his class in a small high school (a graduating class of 73). He was a superstar senior in the local newspaper. He played the xylophone, marimba, chimes, and bells in Marching Band for four years. He scored a 28 on the ACT. His grade point average was a 3.96. His school did not offer or consider weighted grades (that was for his sister), but he took the hardest classes offered. He did not take anatomy and physiology because he didn’t want to dissect a cat. He has a very soft heart for animals that we have as pets. He gave the speech, after much labored practice, before his graduating class.

He went to college at our local Christian college with substantial scholarships. He graduated Magna Cum Laude. While at the college, he played in the symphonic winds all but one semester. He had a friend in college, Steve, whom he met during orientation. Steve was a friend all through college. Overall, college was a very positive experience.

Now it has been six months since he graduated and he has not found a job in his field of study. This is very upsetting for both him and us. He worries that he may not be able to find a job, any job, because he has had help all the way through college, and also getting the jobs that he has had.

He worked with his father, my husband, at a warehouse his first two years of college. He was a very diligent and hard worker.His father helped him get that job.

He got a job in food service the last two years of college, with the help of the disability services director. He was diligent and punctual in this job. He always looked for additional things to do.

He worked at the local state university as an “intern.” This was arranged by the local state rehabilitation agency.

The problem is that he so far has not been hired by anyone that has interviewed him. He has an excellent resume, an excellent academic record, and excellent work record. And he wonders, and I wonder too, if he will be able to get a job on his own. Will he be able to succeed in his field of study?

There are extenuating circumstances: The economy is awful – they call it the “Great Recession.” It turns out that his field is highly competitive.

But the big question is, is it because of autism. Somehow, his mannerisms and tendency to talk to much are off putting. So we worry. I know that we need to be anxious for nothing. To lay it before the Lord. Father, help my son to find a job in his field…a job close to home…that he can drive to. Father, help him. Help him. Don’t we all have help?

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