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When I was in high school, my mother would frequently tell her friends, sometimes in my hearing, that the reason I had such high grades was that I was “overcompensating” for my weaknesses (She felt that I was unattractive, had poor social skills, and was clumsy).

It is probable that I have some autistic traits, though some of them have diminished over the years.

Some studies have suggested that autism and genius have some traits in common. http://healthland.time.com/2012/07/10/what-child-prodigies-and-autistic-people-have-in-common/

As we were raising our kids, we tried to use their “intense fascinations” or what would be called “strengths” in normal kids to encourage them toward career studies or enrichment activities. So Will loved music as a youngster and computers. He was in band/orchestra for 10 years from middle to high school. He has a job as web developer programmer now. Mary’s strength was in numbers. She loves accounting. Patty, although not autistic, loves history and is working toward a degree in that field.

I contend that “overcompensating” is not the right description of the reason for our children’s accomplishment, because that idea shines a light on what they may lack. What is a good description?

What are the strengths of your children?